Pay It Forward… Thank You!

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If you had read my post yesterday you know what I was coming in to today at work… I had been praying the majority of the ride in for courage and for all to work out! Sometimes we need to see the little signs around us and appreciate all there is. Well, I pulled in to Dunking donuts this morning because like so many New Englander’s I Run on Dunkin’ LOL! I ordered my Iced coffee through the drive through ” Hazelnut Iced Regular Please” and I often choose to not wait in the drive through but this morning I did for some reason. I was still doing my morning routine of praying in my head the whole time and as I got up to the window the cashier said “Your All Set” at first I looked Bewildered, thinking to myself what do you mean all set. The lovely young girl through the window said the lady in front of you wanted to pay for your coffee. I knew I had no idea who the woman was because I was not in my home town and I do not believe things happen on coincidence. Thank you for the sign and Thank you to the lady in front of me who just wanted to do something nice today! It meant way more than you even Know!

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On the Defense and What to Do?

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 Lately I have been contemplating making some real big changes in my life due to the quality of others around me. like most people however; I m afraid of making such a large career change because of the uncertainty. I often need to reflect and remind myself that doing the same thing will only get me the same results. Well, what brought about this thinking is a man at my work who I cant seem to get along with. I have recognized that I am consistently on the defense of myself and my character lately. I had not always worked with Steve. Before he was in this position of running the show he never bothered with me and I was happy coming to work and writing and creating solutions the way I always have. Now that he is the overseeing people he has began to make me feel attacked and even though I do not believe this is his ultimate intention and is his attempt to do  good job at the new position he is in. I have to now run everything I do by him and he does not even tell me what to do with it. yesterday, he informed me even though it was my own work I don’t need to know, he doesn’t care how I feel and I should worry about how he feels. I m on the defense and feel like work is now war. Has anyone else ever felt this way at work with someone who seems to be on a power trip of some kind? Well, for those of you who have or are now I m going to share my plan with you because there is only one reason people began to act defensive and that is because there is something to defend!

 

First of all, I am completely removing myself from the situation. someone has to realize there is no reason to fight for something when it hurts you. I am going to leave the job where I make great money and officially persue my own ventures full time…

 

Next, I am going to remember my own advice and be brave. sometimes doors close to help lead you in a better direction. Sometimes people ask why did god let this happen to me and these are the situations that make us stronger and redirect our paths. Trust in hat life brings and believe this is hat is suppose to happen.

 

Lastly, I am going to empathize with Steve so I can thank him for providing me with the opportunity he is providing me and so I can see what Steve must feel inside to make him act so poorly towards me and others who work there. Always put yourself in the shoes of others so you can see what the motivation is behind the action. I am positive that his worries must be far worse than mine and I am the Brave person to realize my defensiveness and make some real changes.

 

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Things You can Learn about Buisness or your Career from a 4 year old

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Just the other night I was babysitting my little niece. Over the course of the evening she was talking about all of the things she wanted to do. She would tell me how she is going to be a princess and her and her “horse are going to live in a big castle. Now obviously most of us do not grow up to become royalty (unless were Kate Middleton) but over our childhoods we learn skills and are told each and every day to be realistic. Children Like my niece are fearless and free to dream at the age of 4. If we were encouraged to dream our entire lives imagine who we would become. I myself would not have gotten a practical degree in which i did not really want and waste many years of my life sitting behind a desk not enjoying one bit of my life.

 

First of all Begin to dream again each and every day. visualize and write down what your life would be like in your ideal world. Remember back when you were a kid and why if you were like me you wanted to be a Pirate or a Firefighter. Begin to dream of a whole new wold even if it is something that reality could never sustain. This will help to increase your capacity for thinking outside the box and give you that same enjoyment a child would have when they are playing make believe.

 

Next, start to compile a list of things you really like to do and do them more often. Life is about having fun and enjoying the people and culture we have all around us.  There is an old saying that if you love what you do for work then you never worked a day in your life. This is very true because you would have choose to do these things anyway. for example,the love of my life loves to hunt and fish ( what men don’t!) He is going to be using this love to create his own business so he can spend every day doing just that. Or how about my friend Christina who loves children she decided to become a social worker and create a place that’s helps children in need gain better resources. There are many ways we can be happier with what we do ; but, we need to know what we love first.

 

Last, I challenge all people to go out and learn what it means to be truly fearless and brave. worrying about what might happen leads us to that exact sequence of events and yet if we simply go for it we almost always arrive at our destination safely. If a better life is what you seek be like my niece was with her first horse back riding lesson. If a 4 year old girl can walk right up to an animal 20 times her size pet him and without even a flinch jump on his back because she wants to be a princess with a  horse I am sure you can start enjoying your life and taking the steps to making your self happy!

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Are you a Control Freak and How to Recognize One!

 

Recently I met someone who made me feel awful for being different than them, tried to make all plans for me including future plans and made me feel suffocated and uncomfortable. Have you ever just felt trapped by someone around you? This can be an extremely abusive relationship and the best thing to do is learn to recognize the signs so no one can drain you of your energy in order to gain some subconscious need of there own.

 

Signs that someone is controlling

 

– Try to embarrass you or put you down in front of other people

– Put down your Goals, Ideas because they do not meet there ultimate plan

– Make you feel like you can not make decisions or they simply make all the decisions

– They say they are nothing without you or they need you. (This is a guilt reaction to make you feel bad )

– Touch you or invade your space often

– Blame you for how they act or feel ( This is a guilt reaction to make you feel bad) 

– Try to prevent you from doing what you want, seeing who you want, and acting the way you want… Instead you always do what they want instead of what you want

– They are excessively jealous  

– Do they do nice things and throw it in your face afterwards

 

– Do you often feel scared of how this person will feel or act

– Do you need to make excuses to others for this persons behavior

– Are you walking on eggshells in order to please this person

– Do you feel like they would not be this way of you changed something about yourself

 

These are all signs that someone has serious issues of their own and gaining your needs through taking the energy and happiness from others is extremely unhealthy. People who need excessive control tend to do things only to meet their own needs and have no real need for yours. They may love you but will see any push away from them as a slight and try to guilt you back in to the control cycle. The best solution to this problem is to distance your self from the control and stand your ground remember you only lose yourself if you allow them to gain something from you. Instead think of these people as a child throwing a tantrum and ignore it and whatever you do don’t feel bad. You do nothing wrong by not giving away yourself!

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Dreams what do they really tell us?

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Some people will argue that dream time is  the most valuable time of our night. It allows us to go to a different place, confront the things that bother us most, give us a look in to our fears and our heart. It is even stated that we may see future events in our sleep. Although there are many different ideas floating around about why we dream and what insight it provides us one thing is clear and that is we all have an individual purpose or outcome to achieve each night.

 

When trying to study these dreams each night first we must be willing to look in to ourselves. Our souls are here in to achieve a love and compassion that is selfless helping us to achieve Christ consciousness. Each night our soul goes through the same situations we may be faced with in our conscious mind and helping us with so many situations. In our dreams we can learn to empathize through others eyes, learn what it is like to be a victim, forgive, forget and love people who we never thought we could love. Empathy is the key to our understanding which unlocks our ability to love all people. The old saying Put your self in someone else shoes may be overused but it is still one of my favorites simply because it allows us to love one another more fully. 

 

Therefore, the many people who utilize dream meaning books each day to try and get some unforeseen prophecy or get a deeper look in to their own mind I offer the thought that perhaps the answers can only come from with in you. They are your dreams and your life struggles not an author in a book.

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Changes in Life Path anre you Man 1 or are you Man 2

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There are always times in life where we fear and worry about what will happen in our lives. Let’s face it Bad things happen! yet, it is truly how you look at the changes in life that make us who we are and decide what type of fate we will have.

 

For example, Lets look at two people equal in every way. Both of these people work the same job and both of these people gt let go on the same day. with no savings or way to get buy; Man one decides to stress and worry about it. He calls his mother and begs for help crying and receives it. He then takes his time trying to find a job and continues his self pity and neediness throughout this process. He feels like he had no responsibility in what happened and saw no opportunity. after a bit of time he lost the people closest to him because he was borrowing to much money and making people feel badly when they are around him.  On the other note there is Man two who decided that he was in need for a change in his life anyway. In fact he was praying to god for the ability to be more independent and did not want to rely on a boss any longer. This man felt like it was his answer. He didn’t know exactly what he would like to do but each day he worked as hard as he could. He researched his interests, found like minded people to help and prayed the whole way. This man opened his own business, made many new friends, and no longer has to rely on someone else opinion of himself and his work to take care of himself and his family. People now have great respect for him and his life is 100 fold better.

 

It should be obvious what the differences are with these two men! First of all the trust in god and where you are going is a huge part of growing in our lives. If you are not able to take a backseat and trust in what you are looking for and have prayed for then how will you ever gain happiness. If man two did not get let go then how would he have gained his financial freedom. Sometimes we all need a push! We also look at trust and can measure it by how positive and thankful we are for the opportunity placed before us. Man one was so negative that he continued to lose more as time went by. A positive and thankful attitude draws in what we need in life shows that we trust it will all work out. Now, I pose to you the question, Which Man are you and when you find yourself at a crossroads where life will change do you embrace it and walk down the path or do you try to fight it, and resent it. If you want to become a better, happier person this change from man one to man two is a huge step.

 

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