Are you a Control Freak and How to Recognize One!

 

Recently I met someone who made me feel awful for being different than them, tried to make all plans for me including future plans and made me feel suffocated and uncomfortable. Have you ever just felt trapped by someone around you? This can be an extremely abusive relationship and the best thing to do is learn to recognize the signs so no one can drain you of your energy in order to gain some subconscious need of there own.

 

Signs that someone is controlling

 

– Try to embarrass you or put you down in front of other people

– Put down your Goals, Ideas because they do not meet there ultimate plan

– Make you feel like you can not make decisions or they simply make all the decisions

– They say they are nothing without you or they need you. (This is a guilt reaction to make you feel bad )

– Touch you or invade your space often

– Blame you for how they act or feel ( This is a guilt reaction to make you feel bad) 

– Try to prevent you from doing what you want, seeing who you want, and acting the way you want… Instead you always do what they want instead of what you want

– They are excessively jealous  

– Do they do nice things and throw it in your face afterwards

 

– Do you often feel scared of how this person will feel or act

– Do you need to make excuses to others for this persons behavior

– Are you walking on eggshells in order to please this person

– Do you feel like they would not be this way of you changed something about yourself

 

These are all signs that someone has serious issues of their own and gaining your needs through taking the energy and happiness from others is extremely unhealthy. People who need excessive control tend to do things only to meet their own needs and have no real need for yours. They may love you but will see any push away from them as a slight and try to guilt you back in to the control cycle. The best solution to this problem is to distance your self from the control and stand your ground remember you only lose yourself if you allow them to gain something from you. Instead think of these people as a child throwing a tantrum and ignore it and whatever you do don’t feel bad. You do nothing wrong by not giving away yourself!

written by Nichole Grimshaw

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click on the blog and check out some of the other control blog

 

Where are you getting your energy from- (Control Dramas)- 

 http://happinessecrets.blogspot.com/2013/07/where-are-you-getting-your-energy-from.html

 

 

Letting go of Judgment-

 http://happinessecrets.blogspot.com/2013/07/letting-go-of-judgement.html

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