Is it better to work hard or simply make small changes every day. Lately I have been pondering this and trying to come up with a definitive answer. I made a list of a few things I have been pondering making changes in my life and thinking about what it would take to accomplish them. My biggest but not only thing on my list is losing the 10 lbs I put on from going to a desk job over the last year. I had tried insanity and believe me the name is fitting because you have to be off your rocker to finish something that difficult. In short each time I quit after only a few days. I just didn’t think the juice was worth that squeeze. Also, my schedule was so busy I hated the idea of changing my life around to find the hour a day it takes and the half hour it would take to recover. So after reading something about making change through consistent actions I decided to apply it to every aspect of my life. This included the 10 lbs I have been ignoring for the last month or so.
To begin, I thought about my current schedule and what I do on a regular basis. I wrote it out and pondered what activities I already do and like that I can make more beneficial to help lose the weight. For example, I usually take the dog for a walk around the block every day; I like doing this and it has been really nice out. So, now I have doubled the walking distance each day ( no more than a mile) and I have decided I hate cardio and was not going to be on a treadmill everyday. So I decided that I would try my hardest to do other adult activities at night… Every Night… Believe me Ryan has been pretty happy and It burns more than double the calories anyway. This is the extent of my working out every day with absolutely zero additional changes. I still eat the way I would like and keep my schedule the same. With the addition to these couple of activities I plan to lost the weight I have gained. I am down 3 lbs from the start of my routine and plan to continue this action indefinitely.
It is in my opinion that consistency in life is better than all out isolated effort. although effort gets you results faster. you will lose them equally as quick because keeping up with something that requires such commitment is typically difficult for most individuals but making small changes and keeping them up every day will get you slow results that endure. I recommend apply this to everything your business if you want to expand and grow, your children if they are not behaving the way you would like, your body, your relationship and overtime watch the small investments pay off with the happiness you are looking for.
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I believe it has become one of the most popular questions; Can People Really change there ways… We have all at one time or another saw someone we love doing something that is clearly not the healthiest decision and You get yourself in to the whirl wind of trying to help them and usaully we have no success. It can be one of the most painful situations because it puts us in a place where we have to make a choice between ourselves and that person and there behavior. With many people this can be a long and painful process. For example, I have a cousin who has been a Heroin addict since I was a little girl. I rememebr what she was like before the drug, Kind and fun, she was a good mom to my cousin and everyone in my family loved her. Now I am 28 and for about the 10th time this girl is back in all of our lives. She said she has changed and had a baby during the drug phase ( again) This poor child is with her and seeing the people around her. My Family gets put in the situation over and over with no real solution because of the love for this person. If you find yourslef in a position like this what do you do and should you continually give people a second chance?
1. If You Say No way these people can not change- Well for the most part the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior and there are so many examples of this the man who leaves one girl for another and then she finds him in bed with someone else. This solution definitly puts an end to your hurting but it also leaves a whole from turning you back on someone who is in a bad situation.
2. If You Are An Optimist And Believe in peoples ability to change- There are many examples of people who pick themselves up, and do what needs to be done. Yet alot of the time people need a wake up call befor they want to and the optimistic individual tends to enable by supporting the peoson through the tough time.
In reality it does not matter which side of the fence you are on with peoples ability to change there is only one thing you must learn and understand in order to show compassion towards the individual and still protect yourself from the hurt of others choices if they cant change.
Discernement– Which is defined as perception in the absense of judgement… This means having the ability to empathize and not judge with the person and yet still distance yourself from the behavior. We are not supposed to turn on backs on those in need but this does not always mean opening our doors and hearts to people who may take advantage. This is a very fine line to play when it comes to people we love and want the best for. We need to use facts to help provide people with what they need and let them make their own choices on taken the help. We need to be careful not to allow and help behaviors that will hurt ourselves because of our love. Instead Strength and the ability to see the truth need to come through.
Lately I have been contemplating making some real big changes in my life due to the quality of others around me. like most people however; I m afraid of making such a large career change because of the uncertainty. I often need to reflect and remind myself that doing the same thing will only get me the same results. Well, what brought about this thinking is a man at my work who I cant seem to get along with. I have recognized that I am consistently on the defense of myself and my character lately. I had not always worked with Steve. Before he was in this position of running the show he never bothered with me and I was happy coming to work and writing and creating solutions the way I always have. Now that he is the overseeing people he has began to make me feel attacked and even though I do not believe this is his ultimate intention and is his attempt to do good job at the new position he is in. I have to now run everything I do by him and he does not even tell me what to do with it. yesterday, he informed me even though it was my own work I don’t need to know, he doesn’t care how I feel and I should worry about how he feels. I m on the defense and feel like work is now war. Has anyone else ever felt this way at work with someone who seems to be on a power trip of some kind? Well, for those of you who have or are now I m going to share my plan with you because there is only one reason people began to act defensive and that is because there is something to defend!
First of all, I am completely removing myself from the situation. someone has to realize there is no reason to fight for something when it hurts you. I am going to leave the job where I make great money and officially persue my own ventures full time…
Next, I am going to remember my own advice and be brave. sometimes doors close to help lead you in a better direction. Sometimes people ask why did god let this happen to me and these are the situations that make us stronger and redirect our paths. Trust in hat life brings and believe this is hat is suppose to happen.
Lastly, I am going to empathize with Steve so I can thank him for providing me with the opportunity he is providing me and so I can see what Steve must feel inside to make him act so poorly towards me and others who work there. Always put yourself in the shoes of others so you can see what the motivation is behind the action. I am positive that his worries must be far worse than mine and I am the Brave person to realize my defensiveness and make some real changes.
My entire life I was told everyone has a purpose and a reason for being here on earth. That there is a reason for everything however, I have a gut instinct that i need to do more and It has to be grand and big. I want to help the masses. Speak and give knowledge and purpose to so many. I have decided that everything I create, write, and do from here on out half of the profits will go towards helping others… I will donate half to someone in need or an organization. I want all people to be, Think and love more. I want people to see others and start to help other people like they help themselves and The best way I can think of is to continue to speak up against others who feel it does not matter and to help others to make there dreams come true and start to speak up as well. There is nothing we are not capable of and I want everyone to find true creative potential and experience everything they want in life. I want all people to find compassion, loyalty and trust in others. This means we need to start to think and act differently against what we are taught as children in school. I want to start to encourage peoples passions rather than teaching all children to memorize useless facts. I want to take an approach to education where students learn to write and communicate through their passions and we begin to look within ourselves for our worth rather than how we compare to everyone around us. I never want anyone to compare there strengths to others rather than help others and start to work together to make things more beautiful and more creative. I want to solve problems together through feelings rather than logical thought. I want people to believe again. I don’t care what they believe as long as we believe something. Today we are moving closer and closer to believing nothing. This is a sad boring and controlled world. I want choice, passion, and love!
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