Are you Ignoring the Signs?

Each of us I led through life with guidance in a higher form… We receive Answers and directions each day and many of us ignore them or brush them off. Have you ever simply worried about something and not understood why. You thought it was irrational or ridiculous and then you find out that exactly what you were worrying about happens.

 

Well this happens to most people and in reality if we did not disregard these feelings but confront them or trust them we would avert a lot of troubles each and every day. For example, Have you ever been n a relationship that you just knew the person was up to something and you say to yourself no I am being crazy…. Then 6 months later you find out you were right and you are mad and upset with the fact that you wasted your time. Well what if these were your signs and guidance trying to direct you away from this person. We need to learn to let go of the things we worry about and do exactly what our feeling and gut tells us. ** this doesn’t mean start acting on every feeling and being overly emotional** but it does mean using discernment and moving away from the things that are not bringing us closer to happiness, compassion, and freedom. below are a few ways to start recognizing signs when they come so you can begin o work with the source rather than working against it…

 

1. keep a journal– this will allow you to look back at your feelings which is the most common way we receive signs. if something feels wrong or bad then there is something wrong. Do not try and rationalize it like there is something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you except your not on the right path and need to reflect on your choices.

 

2. Pray for Clear Signs and Guidance- asking for signs and guidance on what to do helps you to recognize what may already be there or it may give you a clear sign on what to do. My friend Julie for example prayed about someone in her life that she cared a lot about that was making unhealthy choices an she had provided hem with a lot of help and support but was continually getting hurt. she received a sign to move on and stop what she was doing. Not once but Twice!!!

 

3. Give up on Fear– stop fearing things you may lose like, friends, jobs, etc… sometimes sacrifices and letting go are necessary for the overall happiness and good. we may not see this at the time but it always the case. if we hold on to things we never have room to bring the new things in that will help us. Clear out the old and make room for the new….

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Dreams what do they really tell us?

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Some people will argue that dream time is  the most valuable time of our night. It allows us to go to a different place, confront the things that bother us most, give us a look in to our fears and our heart. It is even stated that we may see future events in our sleep. Although there are many different ideas floating around about why we dream and what insight it provides us one thing is clear and that is we all have an individual purpose or outcome to achieve each night.

 

When trying to study these dreams each night first we must be willing to look in to ourselves. Our souls are here in to achieve a love and compassion that is selfless helping us to achieve Christ consciousness. Each night our soul goes through the same situations we may be faced with in our conscious mind and helping us with so many situations. In our dreams we can learn to empathize through others eyes, learn what it is like to be a victim, forgive, forget and love people who we never thought we could love. Empathy is the key to our understanding which unlocks our ability to love all people. The old saying Put your self in someone else shoes may be overused but it is still one of my favorites simply because it allows us to love one another more fully. 

 

Therefore, the many people who utilize dream meaning books each day to try and get some unforeseen prophecy or get a deeper look in to their own mind I offer the thought that perhaps the answers can only come from with in you. They are your dreams and your life struggles not an author in a book.

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Soul Mates and How to Recognize Yours

When we think of the concept of a soul mate it is mostly black or white to people. we all stand on one side or the other. I wish I could offer some most conclusive answers for everyone. I have had many people in my life that seemed as if they could have been my soul mate. I was attracted to them immediately, Love at first sight, almost as if I have known them my entire life and I have loved with all my heart and no conditions. Still nothing has lasted and I was always drawn to move on. This may seem like a negative and sad story but; Lately things have turned around so much in the love field for me and I completely understand why I went through all of the relationships up until now. I believe before we meet the right person our soul mates if we are not ready, have not gained the knowledge, compassion, and empathy we need to be whole with in ourselves we will never be able to have a fulfilling relationship with our soul mates and we lose them or hurt them.

The next question regarding Soul mates is how do you recognize your soul mate and this is difficult because we often feel something with people immediately like a pull and assume we are meant to be with that person. This is not always the case. In many cases this is just a sexual attraction we feel as a “kidney Pull” the area in the body where the sexual energy is often released. Then, our natural empathic abilities will feel another attraction and mistake this for recognition. Sexual energy is one of the strongest energies we can transmit and even people who have a low empathetic range can pick up on this receiving of energy. Sexual energy that is passed this way can be manipulative and controlling even if we are not aware that we are doing it. This is because we can often convince someone that they are right for us through this amazing rush of giving sexual energy. The way we do this is by consistently thinking of a person in a sexual way. This is a great sharing of energy if you already feel compassion and love but if not its simply unfair. As an empath I am aware of this feeling of a” kidney pull”and the difference between past life recognition with someone. I understand now that it is not the feeling that you need to recognize your soul mate but the recognition of values with in someone. If you do not share the same values and principals this person and yourself with have many troubles ahead. A soul mate will resonate on the same energy and want the same core things. Like my need for compassion, affection, and loyalty that I gain with Ryan. However these core needs will be different for all people its about finding the person who wants and gives you exactly what you need to be true to yourself and happy. Next, God will often drop you a hint if you pay attention to the energy around you.For example, love has always been extremely important to me. I love easily and frequently and i can remember dreaming of Ryan before he came in to my life.

Yet, i had never met him so I dismissed these few dreams each time until I finally had the moment where I realized I was living the dream. If you pay attention to the signs you will be driven in the direction of your soul mate at the right time and away from those who are wrong for you. Finally, your soul mate will mirror your energy. Now if you were born like me and you can see it then its a bit easier but for others it can be difficult. The soul mate will run on the same frequency as you and will have the same energy about them. please do not mistake this for being really similar. You can actually be opposite with all your likes and dislikes but not your overall personality. For example, Ryan is completely a mans man he likes to hunt, fish, and is always in his own head and I am relaxed easy going, trusting, and I love pink and singing, dancing and am artistic. We like different things but we are very similar in how we handle each other, the people around us and the way we love. I trust him because he is like me in many ways that just can not be seen.

 

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Letting go of Judgement

Judgement is something as people we can not seem to escape as people. All of our lives we have been taught to judge everyone and everything around us. Society has a guideline of beliefs we accept and hold each other accountable for. Then, we judge ourselves and others when they do not hold true to these guidelines. I personally know this struggle very well. It is my wish that I can completely let go of Judgement and yet, each and every day I fall back in to the belief system that was placed in front of me at birth and constantly programmed in to my mind by the community around me. So how do we begin to let go of judgement of ourselves and others? The only way is to reprogram our beliefs and become open to the oneness of god and study that Christ Consciousness’ principal.

First, The reason we are constantly accepting the judgements placed around us by society is because of the constant need for attention. For example, when we are children our parents begin early training us to believe we need to act and feel certain things. If we live the way they tell us and accept the social norms we are rewarded with attention and if we are not we are punished and rejected. We have this constant reward and punishment going on at all times. We even punish ourselves constantly by remembering the mistakes in life we make. Instead we need to decide to let go and forgive ourselves.

Next, The understanding that god is everything and everyone. We are one with everyone and everything around us. The understanding of this leads to the letting go of judgement and the compassion, understanding and openness to all ideas leads from this one concept. We are all just simply meant to give readily the love and energy we have instead of having false beliefs. Instead believe everything because all beliefs are true to that person.

Also, each and every day be I am and what we truly are. We need to take the risk and be who you are instead of what others expect of you. some of societies judgements you will want and love because they will make you happy and benefit who you will become in life. However; there will be others that will not and these are things you need to just let go and accept that some members of society will attempt to punish you by rejecting you for it. Accept this notion and let go of it. For example, I love the idea of marriage in life but I can not accept being told what to learn or do in school. I feel the need to rebel because I feel like I want to learn what I want. This is a struggle we all feel in live every day and we need to accept rejection and let go so we can be our belief.

Lastly and most important, Learn to accept others completely for who they are and what they want. we are all an expression of energy we will all want different things and have judgements placed on us based on how we grew up and were raised. It will be ok for one to do something and another may feel it is wrong. I say just accept all things of others and find the people who accept the beliefs you have and let others be who they want.

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Where are you getting your Energy from?

 

 

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The concept of Control Dramas first appeared when we saw the popularity of the Celestine Prophecy. This Book written by James Redfield brings up the concept of energy sharing between individuals. Everything in the universe is made up of energy and we all have our own field of energy. This energy can be positive or negative, fun, loving, etc… These fields change based on our emotions and we can control the energy around us based on our thoughts. Yet, we all need a source of energy to replace the energy we lose. The most enlightened of people will gain the source of energy from within themselves and the universe; however, most of us are taught to gain it from others through Control Dramas. There are 4 control dramas and each of us tend to fit in to one category as a main way of gaining energy from others.

 

4 Types of Control Dramas- 

 

1. Intimidator– This is the aggressive personality. the person who demands attention, respect, and authority. These people tend to gain energy from others through physical gestures, glares, yelling, etc…

 

2. Poor Me– This is the counterpart of the Intimidator and these people tend to be a by- product of having an intimidator in their life. These are the people who gain energy and attention through pity of others. They want people to constantly empathize with them. 

 

3. Interrogator– The interrogator is the person who tries to retrieve personal information by constant questioning. These people tend to need to know things like where someone is all the time, where people are going, saying, doing, and are constantly asking questions assuming that something is going on?

 

4. Aloof– The Aloof personality is in turn the counterpart of the interrogator. This control drama is the person who seems to take a back seat, never caring and is always indifferent to everything. This person makes people interrogate because of true lack of caring. Although, not controlling is important being aloof is more similar to neglect.

 

Our entire lives we have a constant depletion of energy from control dramas. These are small or large, in fact it seems almost impossible not to manipulate or control in some way using control dramas. For example, a teenager needs to drive a friend to the airport. This person says I will bring you if you pay for gas. This is an intimidator. Demanding of something for something else, and then the friend might say oh but I have no money for gas and then they become the Poor me. This is a very small example but they happen on various scales each day. So how can we Break these control dramas?

 

1. let go of Competition– Instead of competing with others cooperate. This may mean doing things without need for anything in order to readily give. Instead do not expect anything from anyone just give readily.

2. Fear– Let go of fear and imposing it on other people. Fear is a useless emotion which has no positive outcome. being fearful of a negative outcome in your life will only result in exactly what you think. If you find yourself in a control drama with another then let go, walk away and find someone who will help you and wants to cooperate.Release all fear!

3. Action vs. Reaction– Do not react to people and what they say. This is the hardest of all in my opinion because we all have the need to defend ourselves is someone is taking our energy. Instead just know yourself and who you are. no one should and can affect who you are as a person and your belief is yourself.  Action on the other hand is moving towards what you are drawn to do and will help you and others around you without depleting energy. It will be easy and feel good. The best example of this is when Jesus said Turn the other cheek!

Therefore, In order to manage control dramas all you need to do is begin to manage your own energy. These things can be done by finding peace with in yourself. This is through letting go and centering yourself. There are many ways to do this different breathing techniques, having high self worth, meditation, etc…. It is really your journey and your choice.

 

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How do you find your Peace

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You can find NO peace unless you find it from within! I heard this statement today and wanted to expand on this idea. So many people look for happiness and peace from others around us or from material possessions. The true way to find peace is to begin to look at how we view our lives in our current state rather than always grabbing for more from people and things. If we are always chasing what might come next when will we find happiness. Ask yourself if you are always thinking ill be happy when________ happens. Or ask yourself how often you stop and Appreciate people, give back, and show gratitude for what you do have. This is an important step in finding peace from with in. The next important step in finding peace from with in is to start changing your belief in yourself. Start thinking about how you talk to yourself during the day. Do you use the word cant often? I encourage all people to start telling themselves how wonderful they are and encourage the things you believe you are great at! These two steps are an easy way to change your life now and become happier each and every day!

 

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Self Sacrifice The Most Important trait of Unconditional Love

I was recently watching The hungers Games which tells the amazing story of a girls self sacrifice to save her sister and later on a boy from where her same district. Self sacrifice is defined as giving up ones self interests for the benefit of others or a cause. I find nothing in life more beautiful than self sacrifice. each and every time I experience someone showing true compassion and empathy in this way I am brought to tears. Giving up on our ego to save or help the ones we love is the highest purpose and form of love we can show. Think to yourself who you would be willing to sacrifice it all for and realize that is true the first trait of  unconditional love.

ARE YOUR RIDGID BELIEFS HOLDING YOU BACK?

Many of us see our morals we are taught as children, accept the tangible world that is created by the parents and structures around us, we have a strict concept of right and wrong. I question all authority and wonder why we do not simply try to understand happiness and hold ourselves back from what we truly want. a lot of this time our sense of right and wrong, obligation, lack of creating is what holds us back from the happiness. I have said many times that we are constantly being held back by the beliefs of other people as well. We have been told over and over what we can and can not do well by others around us. Then, we become what they tell us over time. I want everyone to begin to create their own lives based on what they want and have always wanted. Learn to question the authority of those around them. So, how can we do this? Three ways, we place ourselves around like minded people, learn empathy and unconditional love and understanding, and finally we learn to control our thoughts and beliefs. 


First of all, Everyone around us is here to help us along and the supportive people you need are there in your life but are they the people you spend your life with. For example, I have a friend who I truly love because he has an idea and we make it happen when we are together. The reason is we are creative energy because of the freedom. This is a platonic relationship that i ran in to by attracting like minded people. Now, I can easily not spend my focus on this friendship which is new and continue to be around the egotistical friends who have goals that will never satisfy them. This is my will and choice ( and of course sometimes I do) to be with who I want. Find the people who have the closest perspective on life as you do. These people are here to help you and begin to create and believe in yourself. 


Next, Learning to understand and feel everyone’s thoughts and feelings as a wholeness and oneness. This is true energy and what most of us would consider Christ consciousness. I always say my ability to feel what others do leads me to forgive and love all people no matter what they have done. I have always known compassion and can step in to others shoes. for most of us this is something we need to learn. It is compassion that leads us to make the correct choices and not hurt the people who will always be held back, cant seem to find true happiness in their lives, and believe the material possessions will be all there is and yet they cant create anything helpful to achieve the possessions they covet. Compassion and Empathy lead us to true understanding of ourselves and others. This is what lets us discover what it is like to be the starving artist and understand their creativity, it is what lets us understand the child born in to a third world country and we may create an organization that saves them, or finding our compassion around the earth and we become people who want peace overall or environmental clean up. The wider our compassion and understanding reaches the more creative we become and the more we are driven to act upon it. This is what brings us true success!


Lastly, We need to understand the majority of people are going to be living life by popular media and controlled culture. This will lead them to tell you that you cant accomplish what you dream of or want. the more you hear this the more you believe it. start reprogramming your beliefs by telling yourself you can do it. Remember everything around us starts as inspired thought and action. Simply think it and move towards it. tell yourself you will and can the entire way and do not listen to the Haters. If they do not believe let them hold themselves back in life not you. 


To end my rant today, I want to leave you with the thought of whether or not you simply accept what you are told and limit yourself to the world other people create or you go out and make a reality that is both rewarding, loving and amazing. Now is the best time to begin to change the limits you have for yourself and to Make the future better for everyone. Go live the life you want.

 

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What is Christ Consciousness?

This is a question I am asked often? I personally do not like the term because it makes the term Christ Consciousness seem only available to Christians but this is not the case. Christ consciousness is our ability  to become a full and spiritually whole person. Spirit is everything around us and connects every object, person and animal on earth through one conscious energy stream.This spirit is what makes us all act as one, create and love. the ascension in to Christ consciousness is becoming aware of the spirit and feel for everything around us. This includes the empathy and love for everyone you meet and come in to contact with.

 

 OK so if Christ consciousness is not limited to only Christians then why do we call it Christ consciousness. It is simple, because Jesus when on earth achieved this enlightened state of living. He displayed unbelievable love and compassion for all life. No matter what you believe you have to agree that this is a beautiful thought. Therefore; it is simple studying the actions and feelings of Jesus are so much more valuable than the words that we misconstrue in to some religion that can change upon one mans ego or needs at any given moment. If we follow his compassion, trust, and need to create, teach, save, help, etc… His love of all people and appreciation is what we were suppose to learn not the words which are open to interpretation.  

 

 

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My Great Wish

 

The question is posed to me all the time about why some people are not normal and capable of simply not caring wondering or wanting more knowledge in their life. From what I am aware of some people choose to love rather than think and be logical. they are led by their heart and spirit. Most people today are led by their heads. In my opinion being led by the head is a negative aspect. It leads to selfishness, worldliness, ego, and violence. This is the pain I feel all the time. Although, I realize I am different, Like most others I am often affected negatively from it and I make the wish often that I was normal and had that male dominant brain. I pose the question to people is it better to be powerful and self satisfying than compassionate and selfless. I have made the promise to never take anything the world gives me without giving back to someone who needs it. I have decided that half of anything I make will go to charity and bettering the world. This includes half of the book I am writing. So many people need more and are never helped. I can not look the other way anymore. I challenge others to begin to help as well. Create a movement of compassion and start to teach others and help others!

 

 

 

 

 

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