Are you Ignoring the Signs?

Each of us I led through life with guidance in a higher form… We receive Answers and directions each day and many of us ignore them or brush them off. Have you ever simply worried about something and not understood why. You thought it was irrational or ridiculous and then you find out that exactly what you were worrying about happens.

 

Well this happens to most people and in reality if we did not disregard these feelings but confront them or trust them we would avert a lot of troubles each and every day. For example, Have you ever been n a relationship that you just knew the person was up to something and you say to yourself no I am being crazy…. Then 6 months later you find out you were right and you are mad and upset with the fact that you wasted your time. Well what if these were your signs and guidance trying to direct you away from this person. We need to learn to let go of the things we worry about and do exactly what our feeling and gut tells us. ** this doesn’t mean start acting on every feeling and being overly emotional** but it does mean using discernment and moving away from the things that are not bringing us closer to happiness, compassion, and freedom. below are a few ways to start recognizing signs when they come so you can begin o work with the source rather than working against it…

 

1. keep a journal– this will allow you to look back at your feelings which is the most common way we receive signs. if something feels wrong or bad then there is something wrong. Do not try and rationalize it like there is something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you except your not on the right path and need to reflect on your choices.

 

2. Pray for Clear Signs and Guidance- asking for signs and guidance on what to do helps you to recognize what may already be there or it may give you a clear sign on what to do. My friend Julie for example prayed about someone in her life that she cared a lot about that was making unhealthy choices an she had provided hem with a lot of help and support but was continually getting hurt. she received a sign to move on and stop what she was doing. Not once but Twice!!!

 

3. Give up on Fear– stop fearing things you may lose like, friends, jobs, etc… sometimes sacrifices and letting go are necessary for the overall happiness and good. we may not see this at the time but it always the case. if we hold on to things we never have room to bring the new things in that will help us. Clear out the old and make room for the new….

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Why is Finding Love so Hard

So may people I meet have lost no hope to find the “right person” these days. Many go from one relationship to the other to find the one . This is something we are taught from very early on. I was one of these people and have made every classic mistake in dating that the experts will advise you not to do. Looking back at the mistakes I made and some of the silly advise from some of these experts and there books I am spending do much time reading I realized something; None of it really helped… It was not the mistakes I had made that destroyed the relationships, and these guys were not the devil incarnate. As soon as I came to terms with myself and stopped the games and unrealistic search things started to become much simpler and easier. Here is what happened

 

To begin, I had a thought that it was time to give up and come to terms with being alone. Now this is probably the complete opposite of what you want but I needed to realize that It was a possibility and face it like a man (lol) If like me this is a fear of yours then face it and come to terms with it because if you face your fear then there is nothing to fear any longer. So yes, I am recommending being alone for a while… I did this and it really changed my outlook and perspective. In fact I was still in this mindset when Ryan came in to my life and I have never been happier!

 

Next, I stopped worrying about why my ex’s hurt me, don’t call, play games and are a constant pain in my ass. I did something huge I changed my number and deleted there’s. I finally just said I am done with this garbage. They told me I was not good enough for them and honestly now that I look back thank god I wasn’t. I look back and think how much time I wasted on Men who rejected me it makes me sick. Instead I started spending my time having a good time with friends, making more friends, working hard, and for the first time thinking about myself and what I wanted in life…

 

lastly, Over this time I stopped thinking about the perfect man and began thinking about my perfect life. This change in accepting being alone and focusing on myself gave me the rare opportunity to create a true image of what I wanted my life to look like. I did not care any longer about qualities of a man, instead think about qualities of yourself and your life.

 

After all of these things happened to me I finally was no longer searching for a man and instead simply searching for a better overall life for myself. The ironic part is I found my prince charming just a few months later because I was no longer looking for the wrong things in life. He is perfect and if I did make a list of qualities in a man he is who I should have been looking for all along. I now focus on my dreams and am so happy with a man who supports me and loves me. If you want love then give up and love yourself first…

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On the Defense and What to Do?

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 Lately I have been contemplating making some real big changes in my life due to the quality of others around me. like most people however; I m afraid of making such a large career change because of the uncertainty. I often need to reflect and remind myself that doing the same thing will only get me the same results. Well, what brought about this thinking is a man at my work who I cant seem to get along with. I have recognized that I am consistently on the defense of myself and my character lately. I had not always worked with Steve. Before he was in this position of running the show he never bothered with me and I was happy coming to work and writing and creating solutions the way I always have. Now that he is the overseeing people he has began to make me feel attacked and even though I do not believe this is his ultimate intention and is his attempt to do  good job at the new position he is in. I have to now run everything I do by him and he does not even tell me what to do with it. yesterday, he informed me even though it was my own work I don’t need to know, he doesn’t care how I feel and I should worry about how he feels. I m on the defense and feel like work is now war. Has anyone else ever felt this way at work with someone who seems to be on a power trip of some kind? Well, for those of you who have or are now I m going to share my plan with you because there is only one reason people began to act defensive and that is because there is something to defend!

 

First of all, I am completely removing myself from the situation. someone has to realize there is no reason to fight for something when it hurts you. I am going to leave the job where I make great money and officially persue my own ventures full time…

 

Next, I am going to remember my own advice and be brave. sometimes doors close to help lead you in a better direction. Sometimes people ask why did god let this happen to me and these are the situations that make us stronger and redirect our paths. Trust in hat life brings and believe this is hat is suppose to happen.

 

Lastly, I am going to empathize with Steve so I can thank him for providing me with the opportunity he is providing me and so I can see what Steve must feel inside to make him act so poorly towards me and others who work there. Always put yourself in the shoes of others so you can see what the motivation is behind the action. I am positive that his worries must be far worse than mine and I am the Brave person to realize my defensiveness and make some real changes.

 

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Soul Mates and How to Recognize Yours

When we think of the concept of a soul mate it is mostly black or white to people. we all stand on one side or the other. I wish I could offer some most conclusive answers for everyone. I have had many people in my life that seemed as if they could have been my soul mate. I was attracted to them immediately, Love at first sight, almost as if I have known them my entire life and I have loved with all my heart and no conditions. Still nothing has lasted and I was always drawn to move on. This may seem like a negative and sad story but; Lately things have turned around so much in the love field for me and I completely understand why I went through all of the relationships up until now. I believe before we meet the right person our soul mates if we are not ready, have not gained the knowledge, compassion, and empathy we need to be whole with in ourselves we will never be able to have a fulfilling relationship with our soul mates and we lose them or hurt them.

The next question regarding Soul mates is how do you recognize your soul mate and this is difficult because we often feel something with people immediately like a pull and assume we are meant to be with that person. This is not always the case. In many cases this is just a sexual attraction we feel as a “kidney Pull” the area in the body where the sexual energy is often released. Then, our natural empathic abilities will feel another attraction and mistake this for recognition. Sexual energy is one of the strongest energies we can transmit and even people who have a low empathetic range can pick up on this receiving of energy. Sexual energy that is passed this way can be manipulative and controlling even if we are not aware that we are doing it. This is because we can often convince someone that they are right for us through this amazing rush of giving sexual energy. The way we do this is by consistently thinking of a person in a sexual way. This is a great sharing of energy if you already feel compassion and love but if not its simply unfair. As an empath I am aware of this feeling of a” kidney pull”and the difference between past life recognition with someone. I understand now that it is not the feeling that you need to recognize your soul mate but the recognition of values with in someone. If you do not share the same values and principals this person and yourself with have many troubles ahead. A soul mate will resonate on the same energy and want the same core things. Like my need for compassion, affection, and loyalty that I gain with Ryan. However these core needs will be different for all people its about finding the person who wants and gives you exactly what you need to be true to yourself and happy. Next, God will often drop you a hint if you pay attention to the energy around you.For example, love has always been extremely important to me. I love easily and frequently and i can remember dreaming of Ryan before he came in to my life.

Yet, i had never met him so I dismissed these few dreams each time until I finally had the moment where I realized I was living the dream. If you pay attention to the signs you will be driven in the direction of your soul mate at the right time and away from those who are wrong for you. Finally, your soul mate will mirror your energy. Now if you were born like me and you can see it then its a bit easier but for others it can be difficult. The soul mate will run on the same frequency as you and will have the same energy about them. please do not mistake this for being really similar. You can actually be opposite with all your likes and dislikes but not your overall personality. For example, Ryan is completely a mans man he likes to hunt, fish, and is always in his own head and I am relaxed easy going, trusting, and I love pink and singing, dancing and am artistic. We like different things but we are very similar in how we handle each other, the people around us and the way we love. I trust him because he is like me in many ways that just can not be seen.

 

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How do you find your Peace

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You can find NO peace unless you find it from within! I heard this statement today and wanted to expand on this idea. So many people look for happiness and peace from others around us or from material possessions. The true way to find peace is to begin to look at how we view our lives in our current state rather than always grabbing for more from people and things. If we are always chasing what might come next when will we find happiness. Ask yourself if you are always thinking ill be happy when________ happens. Or ask yourself how often you stop and Appreciate people, give back, and show gratitude for what you do have. This is an important step in finding peace from with in. The next important step in finding peace from with in is to start changing your belief in yourself. Start thinking about how you talk to yourself during the day. Do you use the word cant often? I encourage all people to start telling themselves how wonderful they are and encourage the things you believe you are great at! These two steps are an easy way to change your life now and become happier each and every day!

 

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My Great Wish

 

The question is posed to me all the time about why some people are not normal and capable of simply not caring wondering or wanting more knowledge in their life. From what I am aware of some people choose to love rather than think and be logical. they are led by their heart and spirit. Most people today are led by their heads. In my opinion being led by the head is a negative aspect. It leads to selfishness, worldliness, ego, and violence. This is the pain I feel all the time. Although, I realize I am different, Like most others I am often affected negatively from it and I make the wish often that I was normal and had that male dominant brain. I pose the question to people is it better to be powerful and self satisfying than compassionate and selfless. I have made the promise to never take anything the world gives me without giving back to someone who needs it. I have decided that half of anything I make will go to charity and bettering the world. This includes half of the book I am writing. So many people need more and are never helped. I can not look the other way anymore. I challenge others to begin to help as well. Create a movement of compassion and start to teach others and help others!

 

 

 

 

 

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